There are a plethora of methods to getting over someone, most of them being obvious yet not very healthy. I’ll lay three out for you.
You could start partying a lot. Drinking, smoking pot, doing drugs, etc. But the thing about using substances to cover up your emotions is that you may be able to keep them at bay for awhile, but there’s gonna come a day when the drugs or the booze won’t be enough and it’ll all come back tenfold. And you’ll probably end up being even worse at handling your emotions when it’s all over. Not to try and blow myself up about it, but if there’s one thing I know intimately through shitty experiences, it’s using drugs to run away from my emotions. So don’t go that route because no matter how good it might feel in the beginning, when it’s all said and done you’ll only be hurting yourself more, and you might find yourself at a point where the only way you can deal with problems in your life is through substances. It’s fine to go get a drink or smoke or joint or whatever if you’re having a bad day, I don’t see a problem with that. Making it a crutch isn’t a good thing though. So not that one.
Then there’s finding a “rebound”. You know, finding some other person and using them to forget about who you’re in love with. This one does tend to work, but it’s my opinion that this method is worse than using drugs, because you’re essentially doing the same thing to yourself emotionally as the first method, except this time it isn’t just you that you’re affecting. You’re bringing someone else into it which is unfair. Another person might not be a drug, but you’re still trying to drown out valid emotions that you need to feel and deal with using sex and affection, both of which to me can be just as addictive as drugs. I’m sure that particular opinion differs from person to person, but no matter what your views are on that, it’s still unfair to use another human being for your own ends.
Let’s say however that you meet someone, and you explain to them exactly what’s going on, you lay out your intentions and you practice complete honesty concerning the situation, and they’re willing, then great. That might work, and it’s also fair. But something to remember, and again this is just my personal opinion, is that when a person is fresh out of breakup, they can be much more susceptible to strong emotions. Does that make sense? I feel like I probably said that wrong so I’ll try and elaborate.
You might find yourself overlooking things about a person in desperation to alleviate your loneliness. You might find yourself falling in love with them very quickly, but if it’s too soon since your breakup you wouldn’t really be falling in love with them, you would be falling in love with not being alone. So I think it terms of your emotional health, this also isn’t a good idea, although I’m sure there’s tons of people who would disagree with that.
Dude, the thing is in situations like these, clichés are the way to go. Take care of yourself. Love yourself. Easier said than done I know but that really is the best way. Change up a few things in your life. If you’re the kind of person who sticks to the same schedule day in and day out, change it up a little bit. If you frequent the same places, maybe find somewhere else to go and spend your free time. If you have hobbies, dive back into them, and if you don’t have hobbies then pick one up. Or start exercising if you don’t already. You don’t even have to get all crazy with it either, just do it. The thing about breaking up with someone is that you’re pretty much guaranteed to have a lot more time on your hands, which can be really shitty, but only if you let it. If you can’t seem to get interested in picking up a hobby or something, maybe try getting some more shifts at work, if your job allows it. Put a little extra money in your pocket. Maybe take a road trip or something like that.
Believe me, I know that when you’re in love with someone and you’ve broken up or parted ways, nothing seems like its going to be remotely enjoyable. I’m one of those people that doesn’t usually get close to others, but when I do I fuckin love hard. And I’m all too familiar with this. I actually went through what was probably the worst emotional pain that I ever went through a few months back due to a breakup. What made it worse is that it was totally my fault so on top of the run of the mill heartbreak, I was beating the shit out of myself for ruining it. I tried the first method I mentioned and I almost overdosed. Thankfully I managed to get myself out of that and I’m clean again so that’s a good thing. I almost tried the second method but I was so in love with this woman that the idea of even attempting to share a part of myself with someone other than her, be it physical or emotional, was repulsive to me.
So just be good to yourself. And when it’s hard and seemingly impossible to have fun, fuckin pretend it isn’t. I know this particular phrase isn’t restricted to drug abuse and recovery, but back in rehab we used to get those corny clichés drilled into us on a daily basis, and one of them was “Fake it til you make it.’ And like I said, there’s times in the life where clichés are gonna be what’s best for you. You hate your life and how you feel because of the pain? Pretend that you don’t, force yourself to be kind to yourself, get out of the house and do shit even if you don’t want to, and it might go slow at first but before you know it you’ll start to feel better. Trust me. In my opinion, this is the healthiest way to move on, but it isn’t the easiest.
There’s plenty of ways man, I only put out the two that I find to be the most enticing yet destructive, and the one that’s the healthiest and the most positive, but that’s only my opinion and at the end of the day it’s your choice. I know exactly how you feel, a lot of people do, and it fuckin blows. I really hope this answer helps you out in some way, and even if it doesn’t, even if you hate it, I still hope you can get through this. There’s just one more thing I think it would be good for you to remember. I know you’re hurting, but in the process of getting over this person, try not to build up any resentment towards them, yourself, or the situation. I mean if they just fuckin burned you and hurt you and threw you to the wind then its okay to be angry, there’s nothing wrong with that. But there’s a huge difference between justifiable anger and resentment. Don’t let this experience have a negative effect on any future relationships. Once again, easier said than done, but still. Use this as a learning experience. If you’re truly in love with this person, then recognize that you were afforded the opportunity to share the most beautiful human emotion that exists with someone, accept that it feels shitty right now, and leave it at that. Some people aren’t as lucky to experience love. It hurts, but don’t let it damage you. Good luck, I wish you the best. Quora